If you are using MONLAM.org to order life event prayers this is a list of prayers for the most generic family issues:

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• For the sick or chronically ill elders: Amitāyus (Deity of Long Life),  Burnt Food Ritual (Sur), Dharma Protectors , Medicine Buddha/Sangye Menla (Deity of Healing),  Śākyamuni Buddha and Three Prayers to Remove Obstacles & Gather Positive Conditions (Bar Sam Drol Sum)

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• For mentally challenged /spiritually ill relatives: Avalokiteśvara/Chenrezig (Deity of Compassion), Heart Sutra Recitation, Burnt Food Ritual (Sur), Butter Lamps, Chöd Pūjā, Cleansing Smoke Offering Ritual, Mañjuśhrī (Deity of Wisdom), Padmasaṃbhava (Guru Rinpoche) and Vajrasattva/Dorje Sempa (Deity of Purification) 

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• Against drug/alcohol/gambling addiction: Padmasaṃbhava (Guru Rinpoche), Mañjuśhrī (Deity of Wisdom), Parṇaśavari (Healer Deity of Contagious Disease), Recitation and Prayers for Overcoming Obstacles (Dug Sher Seng Sum), Chöd Pūjā and Vajrasattva/Dorje Sempa (Deity of Purification)  

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• Against chronic poverty: Chöd Pūjā, Padmasaṃbhava (Guru Rinpoche), Three Prayers to Remove Obstacles & Gather Positive Conditions (Bar Sam Drol Sum), Mañjuśhrī (Deity of Wisdom), Vajrasattva/Dorje Sempa (Deity of Purification), Wealth Pūjā and practice 15 days Vajrakilaya Drubchen * (only under retreat supervision)

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• Interpersonal or Relationships problems: Tārā  and Red Kurukullā (Pema Khandro); Chöd Pūjā, Three Prayers to Remove Obstacles & Gather Positive Conditions (Bar Sam Drol Sum), Mañjuśhrī (Deity of Wisdom), The Prayer of Kuntuzangpo, The Primordial Buddha Samantabhadra

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• Family Historical Karma (curse) removal steps: 

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1. 100 Syllable Vajrasattva Mantra x 40,000 recitations

2. Chöd Pūjā x 10,000 recitations or monthly 

3. Burnt Food Ritual (Sur)  x 10,000 times or monthly

4. Dharma Protector Pūjā (Ngödrub Gyatso) monthly

5. Offering to the Sangha of Monks & Nuns, monthly

6. Mañjuśhrī (Deity of Wisdom) x 100,000 recitations

7. Recitation and Prayers for Overcoming Obstacles (Dug Sher Seng Sum)

8. Prayers to Benefit the Living & the Dead (Mönlam Aspiration Prayers)

9. Padmasaṃbhava Prayer (Düsum Sangye) x 400,000 recitations

10. Medicine Buddha/Sangye Menla (Deity of Healing) x 10,000 recitations

11. Cleansing Smoke Offering Ritual (Sang) x 10,000 times or monthly

12. The Prayer of Kuntuzangpo, The Primordial Buddha Samantabhadra

13. Verses of the Eight Noble Auspicious Ones (Tashi Tsekpa) x 40,000 recitations

14. Prayer to Avert the Harm of Slander & Criticism (Mi Kha Dra Dok) x 100,000 recitations

15. Three Prayers to Remove Obstacles & Gather Positive Conditions (Bar Sam Drol Sum) x 10,000 recitations 

16. 10 ~ 15 days Personal Retreat ~ one wrathful diety (Cittamani Tara or Vajrakilaya, for example,

which one is up to you) x 800,000 min recitations (you have to do all retreat recitations yourself, monastics

can not do it for you. Rest can be done by a good monastery)

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 So, how does this work? By reciting in a language, which is not necessary native to you, you have ability

to concentrate & relax at the same time, remain attentive as a result. Your brain is being re-wired to comprehend differently now. You are being pulled out from ordinary everyday reality. You entire mental spectrum shifts from:  flashing TV screens, speeding cars, busy streets, screaming public, traffic noise, kids, spouses, stress triggers, to ~ being fully evolved with yourself & your mind. One on one. You clear

all negative thoughts & energetic connections with the everyday reality & sort of re-create the whole new one, temporary, virtual, to be able to relax & let go. After you done reciting the same mantra

800,000 time, you will realize how your reality perception will shift & what you need to do next.

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 I grew up in a family with various roots from German to Mongolian, of cause I have been exposed to

all varieties of religions & philosophies. Mostly to Russian Orthodox Church, Slavic Paganism & Tibetan Buddhism. I found all three, ironically, are actually very similar & so I use all three religions as a mystical tool for myself. People have a tendency to gravitate to the most familiar culture from the previous existence & need to choose their own faith & spirituality when they become adults. It does not always have to be the faith you were raised in. If you looking for freeing yourself from heavy family traditions

or karmic events, turning to the most gravitating faith is the best thing to do.  Good luck.